“What I am today is only because of my dad. I shared an amazing relationship with my dad…….. On 7th of September 2006, I got a phone call, that my dad had passed away. I went into severe depression after this incident. It was a complete shock. I hardly smiled; I could hardly speak to people, and I was in zombie-like state ……………….. I suddenly felt that I was all alone," Preeti Shenot on TED x.
Depression is a state of denial. A person in depression finds life meaningless and lacks any significant objective for survival.
This can be fatal, and Preeti Shenoy, Indian writer and artist, has been through this gruesome phase after the death of her beloved father.
When a person who means so much for us has suddenly gone, it can leave us in a state of shock. It is not that the person is hurt, so he/she is trying to dramatize the situation, but it actually affects the mind in a deep and dangerous way. Depression can come following such misfortune incidents in life.
If the deceased person had been the source of inspiration and motivation for you, then the loss is often unacceptable, and a part of you actually dies, because a part of him was there in you (his ideas and ideologies were infused in you), and with the death of that person, that part also dies and so you feel there is no need for you to live anymore, so intricate, can be the psychic connection between two people.
But as the showman Raj Kapoor ji had said, “yeh duniya ek circus hai, aur hum sab usme joker hain, jiski dor upal wale ke haath mein hoti hai……………..The show must go on”, almost reiterating the lines of Shakespeare that all the world’s a stage, and we are mere actors.
Preeti Shenoy strongly followed this ideology, and found motivation in literature and art when she was going through her worst days.
When she needed someone to talk, she had no friends, her husband and children were supportive, but crying all the time in front of them, could agitate them, and perhaps they would soon go into depression, as these emotions are quite contagious, so she decided to vent out her grievances in her writings. She started blogging.
Hence, the few of her early works are pieces of narration, which are related to her own life incidents and these were assembled and combined into her first book. When she started engaging in work, her passion for art and literature became the motivation for leading a good life.
Her second book is now considered a must-read i.e. “Life is What You Make It," where she speaks about an ambitious lively girl Ankita, who has everything but is struck by the hard claws of life.
This book is a fictional encyclopaedia on bipolar disorder and the ways you can cope with it.
Her latest book is "Why we love the way we do" is the simplest book on relationships, and ways to make it better.
This is the speciality of Shenoy. She uses her life experiences to delve deep into the psyche of her central characters, but finally comes out with a reviving solution at the end of the book, to inspire and rejuvenate the youngsters of the nation, who may be suffering from similar problems.
Her life story is an inspiration for all of us. How a mediocre girl realizes her abilities and strives harder and harder towards an exceptional achievement needs to be learnt from her. Besides writing and painting she is an ex-basketball player too, and in the video for TEDx she describes her days of hardship in school and college, when she struggled to practice more and more to pursue her passion that is basketball.
Today, she paints surreal art, photographs and writes great books, which are an asset to the society, for she believes “Save a life--it costs you nothing.”
When she comes to know about people in the world suffering from depression and mental illness, she feels she has a duty, and by sharing her motivational ideas through her blogs and books, she believes she can be a helping hand to many, who are looking for one word of condolence, of support, so that they do not feel that they are alone in the situation, and Preeti truly succeeds in her purpose.
Today, her speeches get some of the highest views on You Tube.
It is great to see, how an ordinary girl puts herself into the process of growing using hardships and depression as an experience, to make her stronger as a human being, and the popular face she is in the field of Indian Literature and in media, is completely different from what she has been in 2006.
Her lucid style of narration not only explains the anxieties of Ankita very well, but also all other characters which have or had a problem, as herself, and with fluidity of language, she very conveniently discusses upon a solution which may be actually a complex thing.
So do not ever be limited by your set-backs in life. Life is not a bed of roses, and misfortunes will come and go, but the revival for survival is important. Grow your strength from your experience and emerge as a stronger human being. Never stop appreciating life, which is the most important thing.
Always think with positivity, that you can achieve something big, and this goal will help you move forward with an objective.