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  • 01 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Sai Bakery-Baked With Love.

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    Dear Sumithra Ji,

     

    I have been hearing about Sai Bakery for quite some time now, and the reason why I was initially enthusiastic about your enterprise is because I am a baker myself and love to make homemade chocolate cakes, brownies, fruit and nut cookies etc.

    But my stock of works took a halt when I found that your son bakes some of the most innovative items like the red muffins and blondies (which ofcourse I saw in one of the inspiring videos of Sai Bakery on You Tube) I truly believed that I could be a part of this “yummy exercise” as prescribed by you, as I want to do something big, something creative. I also found that Sai is the only bakery that produces over 25 eggless varieties of whole wheat, multigrain and butter free cookies.

    Though my physical self is often pulled back due to my distorted limbs, but I have not let my spirit be chained. I want to identify myself as one of the productive social individuals like anyone else, despite the fact that due to my 10 years old operation, my movement is restricted by a wheel chair, and I often tend to forget things, I exactly do not know, what syndrome can be allotted to my disability, and I do not even wish to know, because as I am reading more and more about you, I have started believing, that once I join your mission, there will be no ‘dis’ of abilities, rather they will be transformed to special abilities, with which I can learn something new, something fruitful and make most out of the beautiful life that I have by God’s grace.

    Sai Bakery is an inspiration for the society, for common people, that each one of us has a responsibility towards society and lending out a helping hand can help persons with special abilities, identify their worth and utilize their talent for doing something good, which will not only help them learn something productive but also ensure their economic foothold.

    Since the unfortunate event of my life, I have been trying to inspire myself with stories and articles of emerging heroes like Judy Collins (fighter of polio), and the next person to give me new hope is you.

    The way you encouraged your son, Srinivasan to set up something which he dreamt for, you allowed him to “bake”, and supported him, so that he could infuse the dream in others as well, is commendable. In such situations, parents in India, ignore what a growing specially-abled kid is saying. The society feels that they do not have the “intellectual quotient” to determine what life is, but you ignored Sri’s Asperger’s syndrome, and not his will power and the result is Sai bakery.

    Today grown up adults with short learning capabilities do not feel that they are lacking somewhere from the general mass, because your mission has invited these special people with encouragement to create a world for themselves, where they can learn, work and earn for themselves with due self-respect. The money is not important, the immense confidence that it imparts to people like us, is priceless.

    We need special care and attention to survive, but our families are often tired of bearing with us, as the society generally calls any kind of physical or mental disability as a stigma, and they either show sympathy, or disrespect towards us. We may be different from the mass, but we are human like everyone else in the society and we want to live, proudly, happily and I am glad Sumitra Ji, that your initiative gives this opportunity to atleast some.

    When I see Shoma on the videos, when I find her recycling the plastic bottles and papers into beautiful flowers and decoratives for the cakes, that too while moving on a wheelchair, I believe your words,

    We are not a regular bakery. We make products when we get orders and deliver them fresh. Our aim is not to earn profits but to empower and give a sense of respect and individuality to these adults who have been often ignored even by their own families,” and I wish I can do the same someday.

    Sai bakery definitely doesn’t look like a bakery, but more like a ‘canopy’, a love nest, where you are bringing up a family with growing adults, and the institute not only fulfils their economic need, but more significantly their special needs, social, emotional and psychological needs.

    Baking is just a part of engaging them in activities, but you look towards complete self-development of an individual with your special yoga, exercise classes, and spiritual development as well through prayer sessions. Today, the ones who lack so called “intellectual quotient” actually know what to do, because of you.

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    Today your family members, Babu, Anand ji, Sharmini Ji and Shoma, really inspire me a lot, some of whom are fighting with severe diseases like cerebral palsy, autism and retardation, but never express it on their face or in their work. Envisioning them gives me courage, I feel I am much more blessed and can easily overcome my weaknesses with your support.

    Sai bakery started as a neighbourhood initiative in Thiruvanmiyur, Chennai, in 2013 supported by DORAI (Development Opportunities Resources Access Insight) Foundation, to socialize the specially-abled adults, when you felt that,

    We all have dreams, but to make them come true, it takes a lot of effort. When my son Srinivasa expressed his desire to set up a bakery, it was imperative that we supported him to work towards achieving it,” and eventually in the process, you have been a wonderful mother, a wonderful entrepreneur, and helped fulfil dreams of many individuals, by giving us a hope, a true support to rejuvenate our spirit, so that we can live our lives on our own terms.

    Today you are successful in your aim. Not only have you initiated the removal of stigma from special ability, but have also succeeded in spreading an awareness and sensitivity in society, such that many like me, know about you and want to join you, and many from their hearts praise you and salute you for doing something so noble.

    Sai bakery will continue to grow, and will help others grow with their abilities, and I will be really honoured if I could join your mission and give you the taste of my cakes.

    Baked with love,

    An ardent admirer with special abilities.

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    Responses 1

    • Oyindrila Basu
      Oyindrila Basu   Sep 04, 2016 09:21 PM

      Thank you, for organizing something so great for the society, and also that you found sometime to read through and encourage our efforts in creating awareness about good mental health.

  • 24 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Bollywood affects positively in removing social stigmas on disability.

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    Bollywood is a wide platform which is significantly responsible for affecting the society in positive or negative way. When we see our superstars on silver screen, we appreciate their good looks, their characteristics, or if we say correctly, the good traits of the character they portray, we get influenced, thus we gradually idolize them.

    So whatever we see our actors doing, we appreciate it as good. The lessons the movie give; we try to learn from them.

    The grandeur of the screenplay in Bollywood generally attracts our senses, and affects us psychologically, such that we are forced to believe the ideologies shown in the movies.

    So it is important for filmmakers to realize that they have a strong duty and role towards society and take special caution in what they are preaching or promoting.

    Fortunately, filmmakers these days are involving their intellect in making such beautiful realistic cinema, which not only entertains us and gives us 3 hour’s relief and self-time with our stars, but also addresses serious social and psychological issues, which can modify our attitude towards various beliefs.

    One such factor is celebrating physical or mental disability on screen.

    In the recent years there have been several movies which are inspiring and rejuvenating and have changed our mind set towards physical challenges and people with special abilities.

    Films like Barfi, Taare Zameen Par, Black, Guzaarish and Magharitta with a Straw (shows autism)have not only been successes at the box-office, but they have contributed positively, in changing the social attitude towards specially-abled people.

    Barfi (2012) brought a fresh air of new romance on screen with the unusual love saga of a deaf and mute boy Barfi and an autistic Bengali girl Jhilmil, who never grew up. The film doesn’t mock the abilities of these characters by showing any kind of sympathy, infact, their typical characteristics have been used to derive humour which is good for mental health. We find how Barfi uses his body language to amuse people, and how his caricatures manage to make a normal girl Shruti fall in love with him. Later Jhilmil falls in love with Barfi, due to her emotional dependency on him, and by looking at it we know, that they are also humans, they have the same emotions, they may not be able to think as fast as we do, but they breathe the same air, they feel the same instincts. They have the right to love and be loved. Especially, when our young heartthrob Ranbir Kapoor plays the role of the deaf boy, the character no longer remains unacceptable even to the most orthodox people, who believe disability is a crime. Instead we develop a special awareness for the particular issue and learn how to take care if we ever meet a person like them.

    Acting has immense power. With its strength and intensity, one can make you believe ought as not, and not as ought. And it is good, that the scope of cinema has changed. It has moved out of family dramas, and is trying to create something which will entertain as well as give food for thought.

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    Guzaarish (2010) depicts the life of a wonder magician, who is finally bound by a wheelchair due to an accident in one of his shows, and hence files a petition at the court so that he can be allowed to end his life. What is significant is that, even after this unfortunate setback, he lives with a royal spirit, his voice dictates like a King to his governess. His musical sense doesn’t fall anyway behind Mozart, and he continues to enjoy life with positivity as long as he is living. When it comes to death, there also he wants to rule, he wants to be the decider for death, rather than succumbing to a suffering fate.

    Hrithik Roshan becomes an ecstatic figure which recreates the notions of love and life.

    We cannot deny, that one of the reasons why these movies turn out to be successful is because, it manages to draw the sympathy of common audience, who love their stars, and when they find that he is a disable character on screen, positive sympathy and congeniality automatically generates in the vision, and we start loving the character more, and consequentially end up appreciating the film, and its concept.

    But there is no harm if the USP of stars can be utilized to promote something valuable for human beings. Such a form of sympathy is good, if it can infuse an awareness about physical and mental challenges.

    taare zameen par amir khan ishaan

    In Taare Zameen Par (2007), Amir Khan identifies the special learning abilities of Ishaan, as Nikumbh Sir, and treats him differently, while others in his school generally coax him and punish him, because of his inability to accustom to regular curriculum (he suffered from Dyslexia). This in turn, is a lesson for all teachers, that they should not measure every child under same parameters. Each child is different and has different abilities, it is the duty of the teacher to identify them, and give special care if required, for growth and development of the child.

    No longer, failing in maths is a taboo or stigma in high schools, thank God! Or thanks to Amir. 

    u me aur hum

    U me Aur Hum (2008) broadly highlights the issues of a significant mental disability, and the consequences that one might have to face, if he or she is suffering from Alzeimer’s disease. Yet Piya’s husband Ajay is the strength and backbone, who loves his wife so much, that inspite of her drowning their child into the tub, he understands, he supports his wife till the end, and whenever she forgets, he uses a unique way to remind her of their relationship, which is really interesting and inspiring.

    Not only couples, but society in general understands that people with special abilities, need understanding, patience, love and special care. You cannot stigmatize them, or throw them away from your family, they are not responsible for what they are, they want to win over their shortcomings which is only possible when we support.

    Also box-office smashers like Lagaan has portrayed disability in new light. Kachra, who suffers from polio since childhood uses his disability of left arm as a strength to become a fantastic spin bowler, and no one from the opponent team can ever anticipate, how he is going to spin the ball. His disability finally makes the village win the cricket match against the British.

    In this way, Bollywood naturally plays a major role in converting the ideas of the general mass, persuading them to believe what going on the screen.

    Entertainment and media are always game changers, as long as opinion forming is concerned in an educated society, and Bollywood is probably the largest, the highest viewed industry all across the world. Its audience ranges from India, to Pakistan, Bangladesh, Kuwait and also United States of America.

    So Hindi films tend to change not only clichés in Indian society but also abroad through their intellectual ideas and concepts on human needs and abilities.

     

    Responses 1

    • Anirban Ghatak
      Anirban Ghatak   Sep 04, 2016 09:37 PM

      Wonderfully compiled and written .... this kind of topics should be published more frequently so that the general people can understand their emotions and feelings. Again well written.

  • 04 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Admission of Bipolar Disorder was not an easy task for Yo Yo Honey Singh!

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    We have all shaken our legs to #LungiDance and ‘party shoes’ and many more uncountable rhythmic tracks, which have influenced us to change our opinion about good music. Since 2011, music has been all about raps and rhythms thanks to our Punjabi ‘munda’ YoYo Honey Singh saab.

    He has been the heartthrob of all concerts, and his item numbers swooned the discs and pubs. His graph of success has been tremendously rising within a very short span of time.

    But don’t you feel the feat is missing for some time now? Every Bollywood movie included a rap for its completion from Honey paa ji, in the recent years, but it’s been long that we have not had a new number from him.

    When the world was dancing through his tunes, he suddenly secluded himself from the limelight. Almost for two long years, Honey Singh has been away from the industry, which has given him the stardom, such that he is still not forgotten.

    Now he has finally opened up on this interlude in his journey.

    He has stated to the Times of India that he has been suffering from Bipolar Disorder, alcohol being one of its prime reasons.

    “The last 18 months were the darkest phase of my life, and I wasn’t in a state to talk to anyone”, he admits.

    Bipolar disorder is a mental state when a person usually has very frequent mood swings, reports The National Institute of Mental Health, and this severely damages brain balance and hampers work and daily activities. It has also been called “manic-depressive illness”.

    This disease has not left our celebrities alone as well, and Honey Singh is one of them. In spite of the stupendous fame and success, he was tied down by his mental illness.

    “Forget leaving the house, I couldn’t even leave my room. At one point, I thought I would live in this darkness forever. I had cut myself off from everyone. I didn’t come out of my room, forget stepping out of the house. I had a beard and I didn't get a haircut for months. For someone who has performed in front of a crowd of 20,000, I was scared of facing 4-5 people. That’s what bipolar disorder does to you,” Honey said.

    However, every cloud has a silver lining. What is inspiring is the fact, that this personality has shown the courage to own up his illness, which is the first and most important step of cure. He admits he has been an addict, and he was afraid this darkness would last him forever.

    But the fact that he has come in public once again, he is attending interviews is the proof that he is in the process of recovery. His sarcasms in lyrics has always been a matter of criticism, but with a positive spirit he has withheld them. Competition never concerned him, criticisms never bothered him, yet he has been in depression, fear and fret. But he sets an example by showing a strong will power to get himself out of this frustrating state.

    He has already changed four doctors in these 18 months with the hope that will be able to do away with his addiction and disorder.

    “After the sun went down, I was scared of my own family. I wasn’t behaving like myself. I was a sick person. I wasn’t in my own control. But now it is all behind me and I’ve come out of it”.

     

    Well said were the lines, “Beauty is Truth, truth is beauty”, that is art is always beautiful, and the beautiful soul is expressed in art. Whatever be the glooms of life, his music has always been with him. Possibly, his art is unchanged in his mind, which is acting as a positive force for survival and recovery.

    “One night when I couldn’t sleep in spite of popping sleeping pills, I wrote and composed a song called ‘Rise and Shine’, after seeing my mom breakdown. She is the only reason I am here today”, says Honey Singh.

    He will be soon back in music, rocking the top most charts with his sensational music and captivating lyrics.

    We hope that he will get over this subdued phase quickly, and will come back with a bang with some of his super hits down the line.

    And once again the music channels will bump up with a loud and clear shout #YoYoHoneySinga!!!

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  • 02 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Matthieu Ricard-Happiness is worrying less about yourself

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    69 years-old Tibetan monk has become the happiest man in the world by following the path of altruism, which is selflessness.

    It is interesting to note that in a world where common human beings are bothered with small and big problems of daily life, but yet fails to find the way to be happy.

    This old Buddhist, Matthieu Ricard, almost has nothing of what we, common men have.

    However, seem to be capable of happiness, which makes him the most powerful personality.

    He meditates with dedication, with the intension to infuse compassion within him.

    Neuroscientist from the University of Wisconsin, Richard Davidson, has found in his research with Matthieu that:

    “when meditating on compassion, Ricard's brain produces a level of gamma waves - those linked to consciousness, attention, learning and memory ………….excessive activity in his brain's left prefrontal cortex compared to its right counterpart, allowing him an abnormally large capacity for happiness and a reduced propensity towards negativity.”

    As Mr. Ricard says,

    we often confuse happiness with pleasure and well-being, too much of which leaves us tired at a point of time, we seek for happiness, but we tend to flee away from it not being able to recognize.

    His mantra for happiness is

    ‘care less for yourself and more for others.’

    If we are always bothering about the little interests within us, it causes a lot of stress, anxiety and disappointment leads to depression. Instead, if a person is benevolent and sensitive to the needs of others.

    He will be much appreciated by the world, which will automatically make him feel better.

    Constant self-centeredness is exhausting, "It's not the moral ground," Ricard explained.

    "It's simply that me, me, me all day long is very stuffy. And it's quite miserable, because you instrumentalize the whole world as a threat, or as a potential sort of interest [to yourself]."

    He believes that each one of us has a potential towards positivity.

    However, we need to nurture the goodness in us. Being happy, thinking good, is a practice.

    One should work towards training his mind for positivity. It is like a runner training himself for a marathon.

     

    “Our control of the outer world is limited, temporary and often illusory,"

     

    So as much as we try to fix the wrongs from outside, we do not attain an expected result, but from within; we can persevere for a better change.

     

    According to him, as per Buddhist definition:

    Happiness or well-being is not just a pleasurable sensation. It is a deep sense of serenity and fulfillment and state that actually pervades.

     

    Hence we can have this well-being while being sad.

     

    Well-being or permanent happiness is a state of being not a ‘fleeting sensation'.

     

    It is like the depth of an ocean. Our mind is stronger, which can give us the sensation and the feeling of an external well-being.

     

    Environmental perceptions of freedom, achievement, affluence and everything associated with happiness are “just auxiliary, help conditions,"

     

    It is all about how the mind interprets them, hence it is all in the mind to feel happy or sad, though external factors do matter.

     

    He advices everybody to spend at least 10-15 minutes each day thinking purposively on good things.

     

    His book, Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life's Most Important Skill teaches us how to concentrate on positive emotions to keep your mental health balanced and flourishing with happiness because the secret lies in contentment.

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  • 02 Mar
    Oyindrila Basu

    Tears can be wiped off with laughter- Lilly Singh’s inspirational story.

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    Struggling with depression; 'It's Nothing to Be Ashamed About', says Lilly Singh. Could you have ever imagined that Lilly Singh, the hippy star, the girl with cool dude attitude, can speak on depression!

     

    But its true. As I say, we all have our share of joy and sorrow. Today we find her rocking the social media as the #Superwoman, but she was a subject of depression once and today when she gives her motivational speeches she recalls those days.

     

    Lilly Singh was born in Scarborough, Ontario, Canada to a Punjabi family by origin. She is a bachelor’s degree holder in Psychology from York university. Since she was struggling with depression, she sorted out a way, to vent her feelings and that was through You Tube.

    When you decide to fight against your weaknesses instead of being torn down by them, that is the spirit which calls for a celebration.

     

    "I didn't have goals. I didn't feel like eating. I was upset for absolutely no reason," Singh says in the current issue of PEOPLE. "I told myself, 'You have a choice: Either continue feeling this way or do something to change your life," says Lilly.

     

    When she started her You Tube channel, she never knew it would be such a big hit. One of her earliest videos was a parody on Justin Bieber, called #NeverSayNever which hit 1000 subscribers, and hence Lilly realized that she had the potential to instigate the young crowd, the audience who was so hungry for a spark of motivation, and she used her comic skills to discuss serious issues in the form of jokes, parodies and sarcasms.

     

    The humour of her contents helped her overcome her grief, as we all know, laughter is the best medicine for physical and mental health, and she was promoting laughter; she was promoting mental wellness among common men since then.

     

    Recently, we found the “Superwoman” feature in one of the latest AIB Videos, Real Indians vs NRIs, and it was hilarious how she conducted her way through the program, to evoke relentless laughter.

     

    "One of the best pieces of advice I can give is, not to overthink things because when I started I didn't think about a brand, a schedule or how to say or do things," she explained. "I just did it and figured it out. I would tell myself, 'Don't overthink it. Do it because you love to do it and just have fun with it," Singh suggests.

     

    The reason why she decided to make videos for You Tube was because she felt that she was trying to recover from depression, and probably there were many others in the world, who also wanted to recover from this nasty phase, but required a lead.

     

    She felt her videos could motivate people to deal with their hardships with a stronger mind and body, and she thought it right. We are really inspired to find a person joking all the way with her Fans and colleagues, and today it is hard to believe that she ever was in depression. She actually exemplifies diligence, the wish to overcome is important and you can overcome it.

     

    Recently, she has featured in an upcoming documentary that outlines her life, “A Trip To Unicorn Island”.

     

    Today, she is a successful vj, comedian and motivational speaker. She has won the ‘social superstar of the year’ at MTV Fandom Awards and ‘first person’ in the Streamy awards.

    She appears as cameo and rapper in many films, but when asked about her recovery, when she is asked how she came out of depression, she says, “Something in my brain just switched, now I hope my videos can be a switch for someone." 

     

    We hope so too. We know the journey of establishing yourself as a “Superwoman” has been super-difficult, Lilly, but we wish you all the best so that you can continue to entertain us and motivate us in this way, for you never know, how many lives you are changing each day with your videos.

    Just check one of her famous videos.

    References: 1 2 3

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