Total 47 Stories

  • 30 Apr
    Mandavi Pandey

    Harmonizing words

    girl writing and listening

    The first thing I loved more intensely than my parents wasn’t a doll or toy or a thing of comfort. It was a book. Everything else in my life seemed to me in-transient. The book was the first thing that was mine, now & forever. Even when the edges frayed & the paper wore thin, the story would live on inside me.
    It wasn’t the story itself that I loved, but the words in it. These words were permanently ascribed to paper, each word standing the test of time; and yet their meaning for me changed as I changed. I loved how the words sounded in my head as I read them & how each word sounded, tripping across my tongue. More importantly, I loved how the words made me feel for something or someone who wasn’t real, but not really imaginary…at least not to me.
    As I read more books, more stories, I became voracious. I wanted to read them all. I wanted to hear every story, every word. I spent hours in the library finding new books, new authors & new words to read & fall in love with. I wanted to read, but more importantly, I realized that I wanted to write. I wanted to live permanently in someone else’s mind. I wanted them to read the words I wrote & feel them. I wanted to write words that would cross someone’s lips & leave them grinning, or make them see something that they were previously oblivious to. I wanted to find the secret to writing words so perfectly put together, that one sentence would evoke a light the reader never knew existed within them.
    So, I began to write. My matter seemed so mundane at first, that other people would read it & smile. No…not smile…they’d ‘smirk’. Either that or they’d look at me like I was a precious little angel, who needed shallow praises & useless affections.
    Then I fell in love again, & this time, I fell in love with music. I fell in love with the words of the music. I didn’t care about the popularity or brand names of the artists. I listened to musicians who made music for themselves…not to please others. I can distinguish between those kinds of musicians & the ones who’re in it for money, because the latter are never able to give me a sense of pleasure when I listen to them.
    Music, in a lot of ways, is exactly like writing. The symphony of words & notes has to blend together in such a precise manner, that the audience is able to appreciate it as a whole. They’re both very abstract puzzles; it has to look exactly right to the mind. When you read/sing /play them, it has to hit you in the gut. That’s what makes any piece compelling.
    You may be wondering what relevance this article has to psychology. Well, for starters, combining words and music can be very therapeutic. It can be used to cure depression, help patients with epilepsy and can also be combined to cure dyslexia. Moreover, the combination of words and music is, to me, the ultimate source of happiness because it sets your soul free from the shackles of daily life.
    I would like to conclude with this quote by Bob Marley, “One good thing about music is that when it hits you, you feel no pain.”

    Written by Pritha Banerjee (Intern at eWellness Expert)

  • 23 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Honda - The Cog-Live Your Dreams With Self Belief

    honda accord

    “When you find yourself in the thickness of pursuing a goal or dream, stop only to rest. Momentum builds success.” ----  Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

    Dreams! We all have dreams. Some are big; some are little. But when we can live our dreams, that day our success is marked.

    The #Cog by Honda Accord is possibly the best ever example, of how small efforts or events coagulate in a chain reaction to create something which is a huge dream. 

    In 2002 Honda Motor Company was the number-three Japanese automobile manufacturer in the world, behind Toyota and Nissan.

    While Honda’s automobile sales in Japan and the United States were considered strong, sales in the United Kingdom and mainland Europe were thought to be weak, even though automobile production in the United Kingdom had been ongoing for a decade.

    Further, Honda vehicle sales had been declining in these regions since 1998. As a solution, they contracted with the Wieden+Kennedy ad agency and asked them to formulate an advertising campaign which could directly promote "The Power of Dreams" launched in 2002, And the results were right there.

    The chain interaction of small efforts to create a huge Accord hit the buyers as well as the automobile market; the ad became so popular, that Honda almost changed the landscape of advertisements. Hence, when you believe in your dreams, you can gradually work with small steps towards it.

     

    Many people presume that dreams are unrealistic and that is why the name given to big ambitions as a dream (which can never come true). However, those who strive towards making their dream come true are winners.

    Achievement is pride but dreaming is love and life itself.

    If you don’t have a big dream, you don’t have a goal and life becomes stagnant there.

    There is no point of living if there is nothing unachieved that you are craving for.

    There should be the hunger which will give you the determination to go on.

    There will be a lot of difficulties in the path of achieving what you really want to. There will be hardships, breakdowns, mishaps and personal loses but nothing should stop you from rising from the ashes.

    As Shannon L. Alder said 

    1. If you don’t believe the impossible can happen, then you are right.

    2. When you feel like you are less than others, then you are right.

    3. When you believe what you have and how you were raised keeps you from having everything you ever dreamed of, you are right. 

    4. When you believe your mistakes can’t be undone, you are right.

    5. When you feel this is the best it is going to get, you are right.

    6. When you think someone will never change or rise above their brokenness, you are WRONG!” 

    Beliefs make up your life. You have to believe that you are able; nothing is impossible.

    Some are satisfied with the ordinary life that is going on; but some want to turn it into something extraordinary and they are successful.

     

     “Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown.” Ross Perot

    May be you are not quite far off. You may be near achievement of your dream, but you have to fight till the end.

    Your dream should be wholesome so that the hunger is big and that will help you attain an indomitable spirit to fight against all odds.

    Failure is not an issue; you learn from it to get better. A mismanaged attempt should not pull you back, in fact, your will power should be strengthened further with a failed movement.

    Once you can live your dream, you can claim that the life was really worth living.

  • 12 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    'Ki & Ka' Have Equal Roles In Making Up A Good Home, A Good Relationship And A Good Society.

    ki and ka arjun kapoor

     

    http://www.idiva.com/news-relationships/new-age-indian-bride-who-cant-cook-and-clean/33629

    I begin my argument with reference to the above article which I was going through today. I have been reading through the comments below, and I really feel that each of them is telling the truth. The article I don't think intends to humiliate women who are good cooks, however, consequentially it does so. In today's era, we cannot write with one-biased attitude. A glorification of an office-going women as against a cook in the kitchen, will no longer be considered highly feminist and empowering. Cooking is an art, and those women or men who love to do it are great 'artists', (no wonder chefs are one of the highest paid professionals) and when you include this art in making a good home, it is equally worthy of making money for survival. Hence a woman who is making aloo-mutter is not wasting her life in the sweats of kitchen, she is actually mastering a great art. And of course, the feeling of getting appreciated by your family is a great experience. But yes, it is true that society has never appreciated the efforts of a good housewife, but have urged her to be one, by mastering domesticity, and the above article is doing nothing better than our society. I agree with the article on one point; if you do not want to learn something, societal call shouldn't force you for it; not everybody should learn everything. Very true. However, be it a man or a woman, everybody should have their hands on household necessities, because you never know when you need to do it yourself. And homemade food is always healthier and tastier (if well made) than outside food, if husband or wife can cook, hence it is always better to learn something new (even American nutritional departments advice taking homemade food, if you have an option). But again it is a matter of choice. If you want to learn cooking and household works, you will be independent of your maid-concept, if you don't want to learn, you don't like it, then you should not do it.

    But one question to the writer of the above linked article: Will you accept a husband who is not professionally successful and doesn't even want to be so???


    Watched Ki & Ka by R. Balki, at AMC Methuen 20, USA, yesterday, and really liked the concept of putting equivalent emphasis and importance to each role, that of a breadwinner and a homemaker. Kareena and Arjun played their roles with exceptional individualism; There is nothing wrong if a woman is ambitious, there is nothing wrong if a woman chooses his career over child bearing as a married lady, there is no harm if a woman chooses to be successful in corporate field and a man in the house. However, the unusual factor was not that a husband is doing household work; there are various unusual factors in the movie which helps correct our prejorative notions on a man's role and a woman's role in a household. 

     

    1. Arjun Kapoor disdains the idea that if a woman is not ambitious and chooses to be a housewife means "woh ghar pe baithi hai", no, she is not sitting at home, in fact, giving more of physical labour to make a home worth living for a normal man.

    2. The husband doesn't feel he does something great by supporting his wife. He wants to be free of competition, and hence loves his job as a cook and homemaker.

    3. The tussle is not between man and woman; the conflict is between the breadwinner and the financially dependent homemaker. Socially, whoever earns the money in the family, is the hero, and enjoys the limelight, no-one appreciates the efforts of the home-maker, (the above referred article is no-way different from our general propaganda) Ki & Ka navigates this simple, but apparently invisible fact and also takes a step ahead to correct it, by giving importance to the house husband as well, thus, also exposing the reality that breadwinner does feel jealous of his/her dependent homemaker, though it is not right to be so, independent of gender.

    4. Also breaks the stereotype that there can be a working woman, but no non-working man. It is worth appreciating how Kia sets an assertive and appreciative example by accepting a man and loving him for what he is, irrespective of his money or social status.

    Coming back to the referred article. As I said, it is always good to have some experience with household work for your self safety, irrespective of gender. Foreign do not encourage maids or labour of that kind, and there are places like Norway, Nordic where you do not get ready-made foods as well so easily. Then?However, I cook, I write good articles, I read books on various subjects including religious literacy, I work professionally as a writer, proof reader and reviewer, and I believe being an expert in Chinese and Italian cuisines doesn't diminish my wisdom, as I continue to have healthy political, social and literary arguments with my husband. It is not obvious that everybody should know everything, but it is obvious that you need food to live, and clean the bed and the house to survive, and you cannot deny it, so no comparison with learning household works and other skills like MBA, dance or photography.

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  • 11 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Anant Ambani-A journey from impossible to possible

    anant ambani

    Anant Ambani, the youngest son of Mukesh Ambani is currently topping the news charts with his incredible weight loss- a 108 kilos in just 18 months. Wow! He even defeats the rumoured talks of lypo-surgeries by admitting that he did it with pure yoga, weight exercises and cardiovascular activities, working out almost 6 hours a day.

    Now that takes a lot of courage and determination. In the last article on habit formation we have discussed, that to persevere with your new motive is the toughest job.

    Where it takes more than 3 months to make a practice into habit, this young guy has utilised 18 months to get desirable results.

    He was a patient of hypothyroidism, where the body lacks enough secretion of the thyroid hormone which is responsible for running proper metabolism of the body.

    The cause can be earlier inflammation of the thyroid gland which leaves a large percentage of thyroid cells damaged.

    Next it can also be the result of “medical treatments” like surgery etc. and in Anant’s case, it could have been the strict medications for asthma treatment.

    Hypothyroidism can cause fatigue, weakness, excessive weight gain, muscle cramp, constipation etc.

    As it is health conditions were not favourable for Anant, moreover being the son of a socialite like Mukesh Ambani, he is always in the limelight and so is his weight.

    His obesity has been the subject of mock and cruel humour in the media for quite some time.

    In fact, he and his brother Akash has been twitter’s favourite child when it came to critical jokes on weight.

    The most popular tweet is this one: Sir Ravindra Jadeja ‏@SirJadeja16h

    Red alert. = Expected earthquake in Kolkata later tonight coz Akash Ambani will be doing jhamping jhapang after MI win” and this was retweeted over 250 times, and this kind of harsh criticism are generally posed by society to weighty people, while weight is something which is not under one’s control, and Anant has not been exempted. It is very difficult to accept such negative publicity by the media. It takes a lot of courage to face the fact that not one or two people, but the world is laughing at you, because you are a public figure.

    However, the brave teenager, took this up as a challenge; it identified the social criticism as a motivational factor and instead of getting demoralised or pained, he fought back to overcome his weight.

    aamir khan

    Recently, he has surprised us all including the glamour industry with his amazing improvement. Now he looks fit and handsome, by all natural means.

    When #AdnanSami had lost weight unimaginably, there was similar media speculation on ‘how’, and today it is the same for Anant, however, none of us can deny the inspirational factor in his actions.

    During the hard times, Neeta Ambani, his mother, has always been a strong support for him. He is a lovable child and Neeta believes in training and educating her children with mental strength, courage, wisdom and determination.

    Neeta Ambani was once questioned about her own weight loss and this is what she replied:

    There was no motivation other than my son Anant. He suffers from obesity. He was highly asthmatic so we had to put him on a lot of steroids. He had to lose weight for health reasons. A child does what his mother does, so I couldn't be seen eating while putting him on a diet. So I went on a diet along with Anant. Whatever he ate, I ate. whenever he exercised, I did too. If he went for a walk, I would go along. By virtue of being his mother, I lost weight. He was my main motivation and continues to be, as we are still fighting obesity”, her behaviour is quite a motivation for all mothers who have obese kids but are ashamed to admit it.

    You have to teach your child and encourage him or her to lose weight by doing so yourself. A child learns from parents, especially mother, so what a mother does influences the child the most, and this fact has been utilised by Neeta Ambani as a mother to her kid. Anant learnt the value of fitness from his mother, and vice-versa, because Neeta learnt to be fit while training her child.

    In college, I used to only wear dresses. It's just that clothes look better when you are 57 kilos than when you were 90 kilos! From 90 to 57 has been a big journey,” admits Neeta for herself, and this must have inspired Anant as well.

    Today, the twitter is flooding with best wishes for Anant from the biggest Bollywood stars like #SalmanKhan and athletes like #MSDhoni, hence the media which had been unkind to this teenager, has now turned in favour of him. Anant Ambani has shown a powerful role as a human being by using his courage and determination to turn his fate into favour.

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  • 06 Apr
    Oyindrila Basu

    Emraan Hashmi-a Superhero for his son Ayaan to fight against cancer

    emraan hashmi son ayaan hashmi

    “Then listen to me very carefully. It will take some time, but once we are done, you are going to become better than Iron Man! You will be Ayaan Man!”- Emraan Hashmi.

    Who was going to get ‘better’? Why? And how? Is there anything in the world called a superhero?

    There is a saying in Bengal- bishwase milaaye bostu, torke bohudoor (If you have faith you can materialize things, else arguments can be endless)

    Emraan Hashmi played his life’s biggest role of being the faith provider for his 4-years old son Ayaan, who was diagnosed with Wilms' tumour, a type of cancer that affects the kidneys and typically occurs in children.

    We had discussed in a previous article how we can fight cancer by personifying it as the super villain and imagining self as a super hero, who needs to defeat the villain with full scores. This is what the ‘Murder’ actor progressively did for his son. It is amazing to note how a parent takes hold of a precarious situation, and putting his own emotions and worries behind, he keeps fighting to keep his child in high spirits.

    The unusual kind of cancer is named after a German doctor, Max Wilms, who wrote one of the first medical articles about the disease in 1899, mostly found in children of African breed.

    #EmraanHashmi tricked his son into believing that he was Batman (knowing fully well that Ayaan was in fond of #Batman and would believe whatever he said) and advised Ayaan that he should fight and undergo special sessions which will give him super powers and he will soon become better than any other superhero. This was his attempt to convince his son, that the chemotherapies that he would have to undergo, were not some kind of medical treatment but a magical process of gaining super powers, with which he can fight the devil Cancer.

    He believes that a person who lives his life with responsibility and high head is the biggest superhero.

    There had been critical surgeries and therapies for curing the kid, some in India, some in South Africa, the actor had cancelled several shoots of the film #Mr. X for getting his son the best treatment possible, however, he never allowed the tension and stress to appear on his exterior self, so that his son could have the best mental health during the physical pain.

    “Ayaan's cancer was my life's biggest hurdle. Suddenly, I had to prove to myself that I had in me the stuff that my role models were made off. I had to be Superman, in my own little way. I had to not just fight away the enemy that threatened my son's life, but also prove my mettle professionally... But the real hero was my son... Kids like him are made of sterner stuff than we adults are. They battle the disease one day at a time for months, sometimes years, enduring pain and sacrificing their moments of childhood that will never come back...”, Emraan Hashmi.

    When #KissingKing gets a kiss of death, it is sure to be a huge mental setback for him, especially when his four-year old kid gets affected by it.

    Patience is the best medicine for having a deep cure for a disease. Control over emotions; maintaining calm become really important for fighting serious situations like cancer in family. Hashmi has proved that he is the best actor, the best role model for his son. Ayaan derives the strength from his father to combat the nasty fangs of the tumour. We salute both father and son and wish them all the best for being such a sport in the face of life’s adversities.