Pranav: Mom please play with me, I am bored.
Mom: Please give me a moment, I am speaking to cashier uncle, let me finish the deposit and the formalities, then we can play outside in the nearby part.
Pranav: No, I want game right now.
2 minutes passed without a word from both ends. Pranav rushed towards the clerical desk, picked up the glass of water and poured it on his mother. This happened last morning in the local national bank of our town. Is this normal? I wondered. Is he just trying to be evil? If so, why? I felt pain for the struggling mother, who could not say a word in shame and insult.
I decided to write a note to the Pranav, I do not know though whether it will reach him.
You are not simple; you are not common; you are not obedient; you are different; you are difficult.
But in order to prove yourself as different, have you ever thought how your mother would be feeling!
She tries hard to teach you the importance of sorry; she tries hard each day to socialize you.
She fails to understand what is going on in your mind; why are you into rebellion and it is not her fault. She is a different person and your thoughts cannot reach her by telepathy.
Sometimes she is too angry and upset together at your behaviour but she refuses to give up on you because you are her Pranav and she loves you. Even if you choose to be the murderer of her soul, she cannot forget you as her own.
Sometimes she is too embarrassed to face the world because of you, like I am sure she has been yesterday. She feels she should die because she has given birth to you, but ultimately you win and her motherly feeling overpowers her momentary emotional distress. Again she starts viewing her future in you; once again she is proud of you; once again she appreciates you.
Your insults and backfires are heart breaking. She is tormented and crooked from inside when you slam the door on her face and deny each and every request she makes.
She is slayed again when you refuse her homemade dinner to some crispy fried chicken or pizza with your friends, but she never expresses her despair because she values your wish and your independence, however, do you ever thank her for that?
Her sacrifices are uncountable, maybe she at times repents quitting her flourishing career because she had to prioritize her family and you, but she tries to keep herself happy thinking that she at least has you. Do you feel grateful for her commitment?
Your complains are endless but what she wants is a good future for you. Parenting is not an easy task; please don’t make things difficult for your mom; try appreciating her efforts.
You have a fire within you which symbolizes sheer potential; utilize your stubborn attitude in gaining a successful and purposeful goal; do not let the fire consume you or your mother.
She is concerned about you, afraid for you every moment. Instead of shaming her try and be her friend. A word of appreciation is lot more precious than gold to her. She is living in you; you are a part of her. Use your energies positively so that she is proud to have you and not otherwise. If you rebel in the wrong direction every time, you are actually killing her every moment, because the part of her in you is getting distorted.
Your dilemmas and delusions will naturally make you irritated, but share them with your mom, rather than venting them on her. Remember, she is not your maid servant or baby sitter; she is your friend and adviser for life.
I hope my advices will help you realize your mother’s plight with you and may be that will somehow correct your attitude towards life and your mother.
Your mother loves you and she understands you, now it is your turn to understand her.
An unknown friend and wellwisher."