“If I think of it my life is full of words beginning with C. I was born in Chandigarh, I became a cricketer, and through my decade as an international cricketer all I craved, along with the rest of the India team, was the Cup…This story, though, is about the new C in my life. It is the story of my cancer, - Yuvraj Singh, Indian Cricketer.
This is humour is very much important, as it is being appreciated in the brave words of the player.
Cancer is a serious accomplishment of a person’s life which doesn’t overwhelm him/her with joy, but leaves him numb with a range of mixed emotions. J
If someone discovers he or she has cancer,
- initially, comes ‘denial’ as obvious, because if the problem is serious, it cannot be with us.
- Next when one knows it is there, he becomes anxious, anxious that his days are numbered, anxious that his family will be left alone, anxious that he will have to go through critical treatments, anxious that all the wealth cannot save him.
- Your work-life suffers
- Then your relations suffer. The ones who care for you, try to support you, become your biggest enemies. You feel they are sympathizing with your situation.
Basically your care ruins your prospects of cure. You start worrying about it, and before anything ends, you accept that you have lost the battle.
It is true that cancer still persists to be a scary word for the world. Treatments have been discovered, and they are being successfully practised, patients are being cured of cancer, it no longer means death. So what is it that makes Cancer so scary even today?
It is because of the myth revolving around Cancer which most of us believe as NORMAL.
- That cancer cannot be cured, it is fatal and will kill you.
- That cancer is contagious and can spread from one person to the other.
- Cancer means hair-fall.
- Cancer means pain
- Cancer can be genetically carried down.
- Cancer has to be treated immediately.
To cope up psychologically with cancer, the pre-imposed image need to be damaged. Awareness about cancer is important.
Most forms of cancer, when diagnosed in early stages can be cured completely, thanks to medical science, and hair-fall doesn’t come from cancer, but some treatments and radio-theraphies following it, can bring about this side-effect. However, one thing which is concern in this case, is that cancer cells keep multiplying themselves in your body.
But if the mind can cope with the fear of cancer, half the disease is cured. It is not easy, but self-help is the best policy.
- Mind is more powerful than the body-I have been through several stages in my life, where I was betrayed, falsified, humiliated, such that I felt there was no reason to leave, but a voice of determination always came back and said, ‘you are able’. A cancer patient should kindle this spirit within him, which will tell him that he can fight with any adversity.
- Always be positive and try to live in the present-Expectations for future can damage the current happy moment, where you may be enjoying a party with your friends and family.
- Conviction wins the race for you-If you are determined that you will fight cancer, (or anything dangerous) you will do it, by facing it. Once your will power prevails over your fears, you will find ways of treatment, you will be enthusiastic to know more about your problem, and find a solution.
- Practice humour-good humour can bring you out from the gravest of situations. Laugh out loud with your loved ones. Make your disease a matter to laugh about.
To cancer ko maaro sixer
- Personify your fear as the villain of your favourite video-game, like ‘Ra-one’, and your will to defeat it will get stronger. Awake the ‘G-one’ within you (well the movie was not at all inspiring :/) and use your ammunitions to score higher over your opponent, while taking a wild ride of your favourite video game, ‘Far Cry’ or ‘Cave of Darkness’.
- Make your situation, an experience and derive strength to develop yourself. Even after treatment of cancer, a person is deeply affected, psychologically, it takes time for him, to regain the spirit of survival, but use this experience to envision life in new light.
“I think cancer helps to transform a person… It affected me so much that it enabled me to grow, appreciate life and honour my body,” says Manisha Koirala, who has survived from cancer recently and says that this experience has changed her vision towards life.
Even after diagnosis of cancer, Manisha stood up bravely, and continued to give awesome performances in Ram Gopal Verma’s ‘Bhoot Returns’ and psychological thriller “Chehere: A Modern Day Classic” with Jackie Shroff.
Doctors can help a lot during this phase, admits Manisha Koirala.
Doctors can help a patient develop awareness about cancer, which can reduce his/her anxiety and fear about the particular term. And the person coping with cancer, and develop a new idea and vision about the whole situation.
Attitude matters most. Keep a positive attitude and you can fight the most difficult realities, ‘que sera sera..what will be will be…’, ‘haso, jiyo, muskuraao.. kyunki kya pata, kal ho na ho’, both are synonymous, but echoes the same ideology, #LiveLifeKingSize, live in the moment and enjoy to the fullest, cure will come automatically.