25 Apr
Yakata Sharma

Bold is beautiful!

bold is beautiful

Rajat—Babe! You didn’t put Kajal in your eyes today?

Neha—Kajal?? Really! Why all of a sudden a conversation on kajal?

Rajat—Ah! I am just telling you. Kajal will make your eyes look really beautiful…and he winked.

Neha (giggled) – yeah yeah! I shall put it right now JUST FOR YOU.

AND this was just a beginning!

Months later, Rajat started commenting on Neha’s physique. Neha, just like any other Indian girl was wheatish (Indian Standard of Skin color Scheme) in color and had a voluptuous body. She was not fascinated by the new “size zero” trend prevalent in the society but Rajat was! He never let go of any chance to demoralize Neha in terms of her body figure. Neha didn’t pay heed to such comments and took it all jovially.

8 months later Rajat called off his relationship with Neha. He humiliated her, commenting on her skin color and physical appearance... Neha was shattered by the words he used before ending the conversation.

To overcome this rejection Neha soon joined a gym and invested majority of her leisure time working on self. She became so obsessed with “weight loss” trend that she started looking like a lanky figure rather than a feminine.  She stopped eating proper food and started “crash diet” to lose weight quickly. Additionally, she became a lot more cranky and preferred to stay aloof. She avoided social gatherings and was left with only a few friends in school. She stopped her evening games and blindly followed “diet” and “weight loss” programs.   

“Weight loss” regime gave quick results and boys approached Neha once again. The lost self–esteem redeemed itself but only for some time, however. The boys who approached her were fascinated by her “new avatar” but couldn’t resist their love for “fair skin”. Neha realized that weight control was in her hands but she is helpless about her skin color. She couldn’t change her skin color. And this thing started bothering her once again. She tried every beauty product, within her reach, just in case might turn her fairer in color.

Neha was merely 16 years old when she got her first reality check about the societal trend of Body Shaming and Skin Beauty.

Beauty… Is it all about fair skin and slimmer physique only??

History too defined beauty in a very simple way. Beauty lies in one’s head and heart, one has to believe it. Beauty should be flaunted. But for that love for self is mandatory. Love the dusky smooth skin; love the fragile and petite figure; every part of the body...One has to make the world believe who you are, not believe what the world believes of you… (Lanka’s Princess, Kavita Kane).

Years later Neha got a marriage proposal and faced another criticism on her skin color. She did not let go of such golden opportunity. She herself called off the proposal and made the boy realize that it was his loss and not hers. 

Presently, Neha has given up on society trends (Body Shaming) and is back to her basic body type. She is no more part of “size zero” mania. She loves herself more and is not ready to compromise in life on account of her looks. She motivates young girls to love their respective body type and not feel disheartened if someone judges them on such physical attributes.

More importantly, she organizes “Family orientation” programs so that Parents, as well as a child from his/her early developmental stages, should understand the repercussions of body shaming.

 Social media too has come up with a lot of commercials with the tagline “bold is beautiful.” It is important that individually girls should analyze their worth on the basis of their hard work, confidence, and assertiveness rather than relying upon the parameters of physical attributes. If they witness such episodes they should “voice it out” instead of becoming a victim of the situation. 

It’s time to Be Bold, Be Beautiful!


Responses 3

  • Pallavi Madan
    Pallavi Madan   Oct 10, 2017 09:13 PM

    It's sad to witness a society that refers to a certain color as beautiful and the other one as not. No wonder people have started to self-criticize themselves so much that it is affecting their well-being. The constant need to change our physical features are, no doubt, an outcome of a society reinforcing certain beauty standards. Natural appearances are no longer appreciated and no matter how much someone denies it, but living in such a society does have an effect on our perceptions about beauty. I wonder if we could love our looks as much as we love those beauty products that take us closer to the distorted 'beauty ideals'.

  • Sanjna Verma
    Sanjna Verma   Aug 01, 2017 10:53 PM

    The society is so much concerned about external beauty. It is so pathetic that a female who is darker in complexion is looked down upon by others. As if they are made to live for the other people to be commented upon. It is because of this notion of external beauty, people are not able to find a person who is genial in nature. And yes, there should be initiative to make them realise that beauty is not just about looks, it is also about how you present yourself.

  • Radhika Goel
    Radhika Goel   Jul 17, 2017 12:44 PM

    My family members often tell my sister, "You were born so white" "What happened to your skin?" "How did you manage to become brown after being gifted with such beautiful a color" 

    These are the views of an all brown, middle-class family. My sister a mere age of 10 has already been told her body is not good enough and it will never be unless she is fair. These thoughts will bother her more as soon as she becomes a teenager. Even if she loved herself, she will question everything about her body and become a victim of 'body shaming' because her own family shames her body. 

    Therefore, there is a need for families to realise that beauty lies in the heart and people's personalities and not in their bodies. They need to realise the kind of impact their comments can have on a child's psyche.

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